Category: Learn the Process

A DUI charge can bring a whirlwind of emotions for both the person involved and their loved ones. Feelings of anger, guilt, shame, and frustration can surface, creating stress and uncertainty.

As a supportive partner, there are ways to help navigate this difficult period and foster a positive environment for healing. We’ve consulted with Brian T. Davis, a Licensed Independent Social Worker and a Substance Abuse Professional to outline five key steps you can take to support your partner after a DUI.

1. Provide emotional support

Your partner is likely working through a lot of negative feelings after their DUI charge and may be overwhelmed with the legal steps ahead of them. Make a conscious effort to be a safe space for them to share their emotions and thoughts.

Check in regularly to see if they need to talk, and listen actively without judgment, setting aside your own thoughts and feelings so they can be open and honest.

If you find yourself feeling frustrated or even angry towards your partner, recognize that this can be normal. You might try to get support for yourself first so you can approach them with greater empathy. It may also be important to express your own feelings in a constructive way.

Taking turns listening might mean you agree to share feelings in separate conversations to avoid the intensity and conflict that can come from a topic where both of you may have high emotions and a need to be heard.

2. Limit risk factors and triggers

One significant way you can support your partner is by helping to avoid the environments and situations that may have led to the DUI.

Plan ahead for how to get home from an event if you both plan to drink. If certain friends tend to encourage drinking and driving, limit interactions with them or suggest sober activities as alternatives. Committing to a wellness challenge together can also help your partner make better decisions about drinking.

3. Seek professional help

If you suspect a deeper issue with alcohol use, encourage your partner to seek treatment. Research local treatment providers, support groups, and other resources together. You may also want to explore programs designed for couples to help both of you navigate this challenge.

If your partner isn’t ready or open to conversations about professional help, realize that coming off pushy or preachy could backfire. You can continue learning on your own and wait until your partner shows openness.

If your partner has not been open to seeking professional help and you think there is a concern for their safety or other family members, you can enlist the help of a professional yourself to consider your options in approaching your partner.

TV shows have made “interventions” a popular approach to professional help but realize there are less dramatic approaches.

You may also benefit from finding a professional who takes less of a made-for-TV approach. An “open family intervention” with no surprise or secret meetings can often be equally effective to help your partner consider getting more help.

This can be a serious engagement. If you call a professional to talk about this, prepare a list of questions in advance to interview the professional and then call at least one other professional to compare their approach.

4. Take time for yourself

Coping with a DUI can be a stressful time for both you and your partner, so it’s important to practice self-care. Schedule time to reset and recharge with an activity or hobby you enjoy. Seek out support for yourself as well, whether it’s through trusted family or friends or a licensed counselor who can help you process your emotions.

5. Make driving arrangements

Depending on the local DUI laws, your partner may face a period of license suspension. Work together to plan transportation alternatives if they’re unable to drive. Some options include public transit, ride share apps, or getting help from family and friends.

Contact our DUI Specialists

Unsure where to start after a DUI? Our State Specialists are ready to help you or your loved one meet all the driving requirements, like IIDs and SR-22 insurance. Call us today and let us guide you toward getting back behind the wheel.

We understand that mistakes happen, and we’re committed to providing non-judgmental service so our customers can safely get back on the road.

Facing a DUI can be a challenging and emotional journey, but with compassion, support, and practical planning, you and your partner can navigate this period successfully. Lean on the resources available and take proactive steps to come out stronger together.

For more assistance visit:

• New Directions Assessments: https://ndassessments.com/
• Directions Counseling & Coaching: https://www.directionscounseling.com/

About the Co-Author

Brian Davis is the Founder and Executive Director of Directions Counseling & Coaching in Powell Ohio and New Directions Assessments, a national mental health and substance use assessment website service. His teams enlist the talent, compassion, and experience of over 35 therapists and coaches who have been providing assessment, therapy, and coaching services to individuals, children, families, companies, and courts nationwide for over 30 years.

When your child is facing the challenges that come with a DUI violation, you naturally want to support them in regaining control of their life. Although the journey might seem daunting, with the right guidance, you can help them discover the steps necessary for license reinstatement and encourage positive steps forward. At DUI.org, we support you from avoiding a DUI to meeting post-DUI requirements so you can regain your driving privileges. We’re here to assist both you and your child through this challenging time, providing helpful solutions that streamline their requirements for reclaiming a driver’s license.

Understanding License Reinstatement Requirements

Navigating the maze of DUI consequences can be overwhelming, especially for parents who may not fully understand what’s required. Here’s a quick guide to the most common reinstatement requirements your loved one might need to fulfill:

• Ignition Interlock Device Installation: In many states, DUI offenders must install an Ignition Interlock Device (IID) in their vehicle. It’s valuable to work with an IID provider that has many convenient locations in your area. Each service center should be able to handle IID installation, maintenance, and removal, ensuring your child’s compliance with state mandates.

• Proof of Insurance (SR-22): DUI offenders might also need an SR-22, a certificate that confirms their insurance coverage meets state requirements. SR-22 specialized insurance providers like Breathe Easy Insurance simplify this process by connecting you with affordable that are specifically designed to save money and stay available after a charge like a DUI. Their high-risk insurance policies are also often a good value for young inexperienced drivers.

• Court-Mandated Programs: Depending on the jurisdiction, your child may need to complete DUI education or treatment programs. Many states maintain a list of state-authorized programs on their drivers’ administration websites.
• State-Specific Reinstatement Fees: Help your child understand the costs involved in reinstating their license, including any state-specific fees.
• Paperwork: Make sure your child has completed and submitted all necessary paperwork to the DMV.

Supporting Your Child Through the Process

Navigating these requirements can be a significant challenge. Your emotional support is crucial in helping your child react in a positive manner to their charge. Here are some ways you can be an encouraging presence:

• Communicate Openly: Approach conversations about the DUI violation with empathy and avoid passing judgment. Encourage them to ask for help.
• Stay Informed: Learn the requirements specific to your state so you can provide accurate guidance and assist with scheduling programs and IID installation. Consider hiring a qualified DUI attorney.
• Promote Accountability: Help your child understand the importance of following court mandates and maintaining insurance coverage.
• Address Problems: Consider also assisting your child in obtaining an alcohol assessment or treatment program, if necessary, to ensure they receive the support they need during this challenging time.

DUI.org is Here to Help

We understand DUI laws can be confusing. That’s why our State Specialists are here to help. We specialize in guiding you and your child through the necessary requirements, from ignition interlock devices to SR-22 insurance, so you can stay on the road. Call DUI.org for free assistance.

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